I'm exactly the same and it is causing heaps of problems with our relationship. You could go see a doctor as they will be able to help you or you could try that horny goatweed for females or something like as my friend swears by it. Personally I haven't tried it as I don't believe in putting things into my body but thats just me. Another friend of mine just bit the bullet and agreed to do it once a week with her husband and after a while that got her back to her old self but everybody is different.

~ Elaine

Hi my son is 11mths old and I have the same problem... I love my fiance to death and am still very attracted to him but cant stand him touching me in a sexual way... I'm the same as you had no tearing or stiches nothing and I cant understand why I feel this way either it is hard isnt it? Especially when it causes fights and tension with your partner and you feel guilty, it's not that you dont love em' I mean you want to have sex I just wish I FELT like having sex!!!

Considering before I fell pregnant it was usually HIM saying no to ME all the time!!!   I think it's because we're so tired all the time, even when you've had a good sleep your still exhausted on the inside... and even when the baby's asleep or playing happily their always in the back of your mind (which doesnt really turn you on!!) and also when you do have that time when they've gone to bed it's when you want ALONE time, just you on the couch with a cuppa and a movie or a nice hot bath... not wearing yourself out more with physical activity like sex...  

Maybe seeing a doctor for some medication to enhance your libido may help, I've tried that and it worked for a little while but maybe might be different for you... Good-luck, your not the only one out there I'm sure theres millions more!!

~ Annie

I had a baby 4 months ago, and I thought I was the only one too. Me and my bf sometimes have sex once a week, but never like we used to. Im always too tired. I had stiches and tore, and I don't hurt at all having sex, like i did at first but that was about it, doesn't hurt now though. I do think that the sleepiness tires you out so much, you never even have the time to think of sexual things. The guys dont understand anything, and they get offended by it all. It has nothing to do with them. Maye it could be the fact you dont feel that bit of comfort around your partner at the moment? I dont know, but you will soon be ok. Maybe try getting one of your parents or your partners parents to take your child for a weekend or the night, and see how that goes for the bedroom. Although that does sound like a good idea on catching up on sleep! haha, and as well as missing bubby terribly. See how that goes, you never know it might work. xx

~Char

It's strange for me to hear you all saying that! During my pregnancy I wouldn't even let my Husband come anywhere near me. But about 6 days after I had my son, it was like we were teenagers again! My husband just couldn't believe that I actually liked him again! lol I was very excited because while I was pregnant I got very depressed about my lack of interest and thought it would never come back. But it did! It'll happen in time. Maybe after the breastfeeding? Good luck!

~ Zanabell

Hi Everyone Im the one who asked this question so thanks for all you advise Im very jealous of Zanabell!! I know i want sex but i can never be bothered going through with it (usually coz i am tired or just dont wana get sweaty haha) and its always uncomfortable - i have tried horny goat weed but i didnt find it to help! My son stays at his grandparents once a night nearly every weekend but we still never get to spend time alone! I think ill see if the doctors can help me out! Thanks for all you help!

~ Jessica

Sorry but I have to agree with Zanabelle except my problem is he wont have sex with ME!!! He said after seeing all the birth close up and the stretch marks and extra weight he just cant get turned on anymore...... is this crazy or what I have never heard of the partner not wanting it usually its the woman. Though I had a c-sect maybe that changes things???

~ Christal