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My fiance won't let our new-born sleep in our room!
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Submitted by Daryn |
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"This will be my first child, but my fiance's second. I really want the baby to sleep in the same room as us for a while, but my fiance feels different for some reason.. She wants bubs in a seperate room..... It's not like it's forever, but it is my first child and I want to be close at all times especially at night..
So I'm asking for advice Please
Am I The Only One??"
~ Daryn
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Hi Daryn,
You have like 7 months before the baby is born. I wouldnt stress about it at the moment. My son is 3 and a half and I put him straight into his own room. I am pregnant with our second and due in 6 weeks, I would like to have the baby in our room but its just not going to be possible as our room isnt big enough. I think it a personal choice. Just try not to push your partner into doing something that she isnt keen on. There isnt much you can do if a pregnant women has made up her mind. But make remind her that it will be easier if she is going to breast feed, and you'll help more often if the baby is in your room etc. (Not saying you wont help) Just a suggestion, bring up a few points about how easy it is. You could even suggest to have baby on your side of the bed! lol
Anyhow, Good luck.
~ Jay
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I think that its a good idea to have your baby share your room, my first born son currently shares our room and it does not give us any trouble, We feel safer that he is in the room with us in case of a fire or a break in, we both agree (my husband and I) that he can stay in our room till he can walk!!, he has his own cott and doesnt sleep in our bed (unless I am spoiling him) but he likes to know we are close by, a few times he has spewed in his sleep and started choking and cause we were right there we could hear him straight away and fixed the problem, I think its much safer. Hope your partner changes her mind... GOOD LUCK
~ Amanda |
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Hi Daryn. I agree with everyone else saying that it's going to be hard to change her mind if she has it made up! She probably is afraid of starting the baby off with bad habits, however closer to time for the baby to arrive, or even soon after, she may change her mind. I know just the few days in the hospital afterwards sure changed mine!
My little girl wouldn't sleep on her own when she was very new born, every time we tried to put her down she'd wake up and cry! So for our own sake's we let her sleep in bed with us for about the first 6 weeks.
From there I started putting her into a carry bed at the foot of our bed, because at that point it made it much easier for us to just sit up and have her in arms-reach to give her a cuddle or a feed.
At about 3 or 4 months I moved her from the carry bed to a port-a-cot that was in our room, but by then she was quite a secure and peaceful sleeper so before she was 6 months we were able to move her to her real cot in her own room.
My little one is now 12 months old and sleeps in her bed in her own room every night without a problem. It may sound like I used a really long and drawn out process, and I got a lot of people telling me how I'd never be able to get the baby out of our room if I let her sleep there, but I think the gradual steps helped her learn that no matter where she's sleeping we're only a few seconds away.
~ Avi |
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You don't know that she won't change her mind once bub is born, so just hold in there and wait and see. Make it clear that you really want your little one in the room with you and perhaps she will come around. If not, don't panic too much - baby monitors are a wonderful thing and in the first while you will be up every couple of hours anyway so you will have heaps of opportunitites to check on bub. My husband and I decided that our little girl would sleep in her own room, but as soon as I had her I couldn't bear the thought of putting her in her own room - she slept in ours for the first 2 months of her life. So you never know, a lot can happen between now and then.
~Kyrstal |
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It's Megan...
Once again i have to clear things up, daryn and i were talking about where the baby would sleep, my preference is to have my child in his/her room providing the room is close to our bedroom, as i did with my first child. Thats my preference and Daryn's is to have him/her in the room with us. Ihaven't decided anything, we need to sit and decide together. It's still 7 months away, it's not an issue at the moment.
~ Megan |
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Hey, I dont think there is a big deal if the baby sleeps in another room, if the room is close and you have a monitor then there really is no difference!!
~ Tara |
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